For many, penetration is a common part of sex. Couples of all genders
and orientations tend to incorporate it into their sex lives. However,
some people have a particular fantasy – being penetrated by a partner
wearing a strap on dildo. If your partner confides to you this desire,
don’t be surprised! It’s actually very common in people of all genders.
Maybe you were excited to hear it because you felt the corresponding
desire.
Wearing a strap on for the first time can be intimidating, however.
Don’t be embarrassed! Getting used to a brand new appendage is pretty
strange at first. If you’ve purchased your new toy but aren’t sure where
to go next, here are some tips for getting started.
Get the right harness. It’s common to be overly focused on the
dildo and not pay enough attention to the harness. While important to
not buy a dildo that’s too big or too small for your partner, don’t
underestimate the importance of the harness! There are many harness
options for people of all tastes. For those interested in a masculine
look, Organic Loven offers the SpareParts Tomboi Harness. SpareParts has been well-reviewed because their harnesses stay in place. For similar stability with more skin, try SpareParts’ Joque Harness. Wear it by yourself. To get used to what it feels like in a low-pressure environment, try wearing your new toy alone.
Developing a mental connection with your new toy is a big part of what
makes strap on sex fun. Use your imagination to connect with it. Talk it out. For some people, strapping on leads to emotional
anxieties. This kind of penetrative sex is often associated with gender.
For some, this can cause internal conflict. Talk to your partner. Also,
listen to yourself. Neither of you should do something that makes you
uncomfortable. Go slow. You don’t have to use your toy the first day you buy
it. Wait for the time that feels right for both you and your partner.
Once the big event does start to happen, again – go slow! Especially if
your partner is not used to receiving penetration, the importance of
going slow can’t be overstated. Most dildos tend to be slightly more
resistant than skin, meaning lube is more important than ever.With care and practice, you might find strap on sex rapidly becoming
one of your favorite things to do in bed. Don’t be shy – try it out!
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